A person who survives something terrible often thinks things like:
“It could have been me – why wasn’t it?”
“I can’t be happy because that’ll mean I don’t care about the people who died,”
“I need to be mournful or miserable to be part of this community of survivors.”
“I need to keep hurting inside to stay in touch with the person or people who died that I love – I’ll lose my connection with them if I don’t.”
“I don’t know how I’m supposed to be in this moment, so I better be somber and quiet.”
They also may be feeling grief or guilt that feels like it will go on forever.
To clear these up with EFT, the person puts all of whatever’s there for them (for example, everything above) into a “bundle” or “pot” – the “place” where we put things to be healed. Then they do all the Steps of EFT about what’s in the “bundle” or “pot”. Instructions for the EFT protocol.
It’s also great for a survivor to do the EFT finger tapping (see finger tapping video) and have a silent conversation with who or whatever comes to mind about the whole incident. They’ll be feeling deep relief in no time!
Special thanks to T Fleming
OK, so you know how to do EFT and the many benefits of tapping for personal issues.
What about when something comes up in public that you would like to tap on. Say you are in a meeting with the boss, and you feel your stress level going up fast. What if you are at a party and start feeling anxious or nervous about interacting with others. How about that dating situation with a special someone that you want to give a favorable impression to?
There is a very simple and subtle solution! You can tap just using your fingers and thumb. Each finger, right at the beginning of the fingernail bed, is a good connection energy point to do tapping.
To get the idea of it…hold your hand out like you were going to shake hands with someone. Then, fold in your fingers towards the palm of your hand. Then, you can use your thumb to “tap” on the edge of the finger where the nailbed corner is. Just tap the first finger several times with the thumb, then move to the middle finger doing the same, to the ring finger, then finish with the little finger.
This can be done under the desk/table in front of you, behind your back, or when you have your arms folded across your chest, it can be done under the arm, close to your body. Nobody will know what you are doing or be able to see it.
An easy way to stay calm and cool in possibly tough public/social situations.
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