I’m working now with a special niche industry, using EFT, with many direct sellers, network marketers, and MLM business owners, for companies like Avon, Mary Kay, USANA, Young Living, Send Out Cards, Pampered Chef, and Scentsy.
A recent client had excellent results and is delighted with the whole idea of using EFT to further her business success. We worked via phone, as she is in a different country than I, and she didn’t have Skype with video.
Josie’s presenting issue was “Goal Setting.” She just couldn’t get herself to do any more in that area than write down the goals, after which she would file the list away and never look at it again. When we started our first session, her 0-10 SUD level was at a 9+. She was very worked up just thinking about the topic of business goals. We did several rounds about setting goals, where the intensity around it came from in her past, why she felt physically sick just thinking about it. “I just stop myself,” she said. Josie’s emotions were hopelessness, helplessness, anger, and frustration.
We tapped on: “My accomplishments are meaningless,” “This sick feeling in my stomach,” “Why do I keep stopping myself?” “Why should I even set goals?” “I don’t think I’ll do it,” “I keep dismissing this whole idea of goal setting,” “I don’t deserve good things,” “I’m so angry,” “I don’t deserve to achieve my goals,” “I’m an idiot,” “No wonder my business is stuck,” “I’m just helpless to set goals.”
We came to a core belief of “I’m just not good enough.” A common refrain from both of Josie’s parents the whole time she was growing up was “I’m sick of____.” They would say they were sick of most of the things in their lives, and also of what she as a child was doing. She picked up that damaging verbiage, and carried it forward as a part of her identity and physical challenges. No wonder she felt sick when looking at achieving big things. The pit of her stomach was where she held all these emotions. She said that she didn’t want to accept and honor herself, and was sick of how she behaved.
We tapped on: “This sick feeling in my stomach,” “It feels like the flu, it spreads out in my body,” “I hate setting goals,” “All this pressure to set goals,” “It’s all so negative,” “This feeling of powerlessness,” “I’m sick of how I behave,” “I’m no good to do anything,” “How can I ever advance my business?” “I just can’t do this, no wonder my business is stuck!” “I start out so strong, then just don’t follow up with my prospects,” “Why do I just stop?” “Maybe I can look at it differently,” “Maybe I can see this as just setting intentions,” “That feels really good to me,” “Intentions are easy.”
When we finished all the rounds and retested, Josie was at a very happy 0! She said she felt good and was going to go for the rewards now. Her one reservation was that this might not hold in the future. We set a follow-up session for the next week.
At the second session, Josie announced right away that she could calmly look at setting her business goals and start taking action. We spent much of the second session dealing with the nagging feeling of “This won’t hold,” “It probably won’t work even now,” “I might go back to my old ways and not move my business forward,” “I want to be a good example for my down line,” “I want to be excited about setting goals when I come home from convention,” “Maybe this will hold for me,” “I’m choosing to see this in a different light,” “I feel okay with goals.”
Another thing that came up was that Josie felt she didn’t deserve to achieve her business goals and be a success. Other people would notice her and she would stand out (a bad thing). Delving into her very youngest years, she could see where all this had been put into place, and was able to release the hold it had on her now. “It’s okay not to be just like my big sister,” “I have my own gifts to offer,” “I’m safe now, I’m all grown up.” “It’s okay for people to see me as a successful entrepreneur,” “I can be on stage and accept the honors,” “I’m so happy inside thinking of my advancements,” “I’m setting a good example for others to follow.”
In her words, Josie ended this session feeling “light and delightful.” Her voice sounded upbeat and positive. She checked in with me a few days later to say she had signed up a new prospect in her business and that signing event was the reward she had been looking for!
I’m confident Josie’s business will grow and she will continue to use EFT to overcome new challenges.
Carol Smith, an EFT Certified Practitioner and a success coach, has been in network marketing companies for 15 years. She uses EFT to help entrepreneurs up-level their success, teaching them basic EFT so they have it in their networking tool chest.